At its core, sense8 is a show about relationships and the connections we make with other people. So it seems only fitting that it would be a show full of special romantic relationships. Throughout the course of the first season, we are able to watch some of these relationships grow as the bonds between the sensates deepen and turn romantic in a few cases. With others, however, we drop in on already established relationships and are able to watch them adapt to lives that were very different than what they imagined. While each of the four main romances on the show offer something special (and I will be writing about at least one more before this feature is done), today I want to talk about the one that first grabbed my heart. It was these two and the unshakable bond they share that initially drew me into the show and that I hope will continue to play a prominent role in the upcoming season.
Nomi and Amanita are the definition of #relationshipgoals. Their relationship is full of love, support, unwavering trust, a fierce protectiveness, laugher, and great sex. There is a warmth and intimacy that pervades every scene between them that you simply cannot help but love. It’s not always easy to make established couples every bit as compelling as couples that develop over the course of a show, but sense8 manages it with these two.
Our first introduction to these two is a sex scene and it conveys so much more than just their physical attraction and sexual connection. There is a playfulness and a tenderness that is present in the scene and in its aftermath that reveals a lot about who these people are to each other. It’s the sex you have with a partner you’ve been with for a while and who you care a great deal about. It’s wildly different in tone than the initial sex scene between Jimmy and Gretchen, for example, and not just because the tone of sense8 and You’re the Worst are very different. It is clear from the very beginning that these two adore each other. Their playfulness and comfort with each other continue to be seen throughout the pilot episode, with little touches that speak to a deeper intimacy and long-lived relationship. While sharing a burrito on a bench before Pride isn’t an inherently romantic act, there is joy on each of their faces that comes from sharing time with the person you love and it is this casual connection that instantly warms your heart.
As Nomi recalls their first Pride together, we get a glimpse into the early days of their relationship and their dynamic as partners. Amanita is excited to introduce Nomi to her friends, only to have one of them disagree with Nomi’s stance on the term “LGBT” and invalidate her womanhood in response. Amanita’s response is to instantly leap to her girlfriend’s defense before running after her. It’s clear that this isn’t the first time Nomi has experienced transphobic remarks by people who disagree with her blogging but it was the first time she’s had someone there to defend her. She’s touched that Amanita would do that for her and you can see the heartbreak on Amanita’s face when Nomi admits to her that no one had done that before. Her eyes are filled with love as she pulls Nomi closer and you can feel the implicit promise that she’ll never have to go through that alone again. Nomi calls it the moment she knew she would love Amanita forever and I can understand why because I fell in love with her in that moment too.
That scene sets up Amanita’s protective nature and it comes back in full force after Nomi passes out while taking part in Pride festivities, is held in a medical facility against her will by her mother (who repeatedly misgenders her), and made to believe that there is something wrong with her brain. She’s scared and alone but when she talks to Amanita, she promises to “burn down the hospital before anyone touches [her] beautiful brain” and she was not exaggerating because she actually does set a fire in the building in order to mount a rescue. Amanita sees everything that makes Nomi special and makes her who she is and she is unwilling to let anyone or anything take that away. This is a couple that will go to hell and back for each other because at the end of the day, all they want is for the other to be safe, happy, and whole.
In many shows, being a part of a group of people across the world who are mentally connected and can appear and switch bodies with you as needed would be something to keep a secret. It would be a source of drama and tension in the relationship because heaven forbid a couple is happy and stable. Fortunately, sense8 chose to go another direction with these two. Nomi tells Amanita what’s going on and Amanita’s immediate reaction is to trust that her girlfriend is telling her the truth as she knows it and offer to help and listen however she can. There’s never any questions about her sanity or if the doctors could have done something to cause this. She’s ready to believe the impossible because she believes in Nomi. It’s a level of unconditional trust that we don’t often see displayed, on TV or in life, but it is beautiful to witness. It is clear that they are team and no matter what life throws at them, they would rather face it together than apart.
I dearly love the strength and solidness of their relationship but they aren’t the only things that set this relationship apart. This relationship, the strongest on this show, is between a trans woman (played by Jamie Clayton, who is also trans) and a woman of color. It’s not a pairing often represented on TV and seeing this couple portrayed so lovingly matters. They get to have a happy life together, be a team, help save the day, and enjoy each other’s love. They are a fully developed couple and that’s exciting and still too rare.
With such a large cast and only one season aired to date, we haven’t spent a lot of time with Nomi and Amanita. But when you have actresses as talented as Clayton and Freema Agyeman, who have infused such depth and history into these characters and their bond and who care about this relationship as much as we have come to as viewers, that small amount of time is all it has taken for these two to win a permanent spot in my heart.